Tens Years and Still Going!!!

As of today Hubby and I have been married ten years. Holy crap, I'm so glad the first ten are over with. Man, I would never go back to the first five years. I think back on it and cringe. It wasn't just the way we behaved with each other, it was enhanced by all that pink...and floral...and (ugh) cutesy. No wonder Hubby seemed so tense, it was all the eyeballs from the various ornaments put every freaking nook and cranny staring at him. Poor guy, I feel sorry for him. He put up with quiet a bit but then so did I with the obstinate bull headed male.

Hubby's mother keeps commenting on how Hubby has changed and that I've done a good job. Hubby hasn't changed all that much, he is just a little softer in his tones, a little more respectful in his attitude and he is a lot more relaxed about things (I know Artist, hard to believe but he is). She enjoys watching us affectionately banter and she knows that despite his DNA I adore her son. I was the first daughter in law and man what a trail to blaze but his family is a remarkable family that allows for a lot forgiveness. But his mom and I have a bond that none of the others have. Funny two generations of wives with the same complaints of our Hubbies' DNA. I adore his mom for her strength and her knowledge. She and my mother put together would pretty much be an entire set of encyclopedias. That much knowledge in the same room could dangerous. Add a little wine, and viola we could have one hell of a therapizing session. (Keep it mind Artist)

One of the things that Hubby and I did was work very hard at becoming united. We learned to communicate, not that we don't have our moments but the difference is the moments don't last and we now can sit down and have a discussion rather than a fight. Hubby and I had to relearn how to talk to each other and our attitudes towards each other. He had to learn to soften his tones, and I had to learn how not to sound critical. We started to delve into the tantric meditations and sex. (Hope nobodies shy) Through that we learned how to communicate and how to become a unit. Every once in a while we let things go astride but we always bring it back together. I love the fact that Hubby was willing to do this for us.

Now, I must confess here that without Artist's and my therapizing sessions, I would not have maintained some of my sanity. (the little that's left) We have our rants, our vents, and even our Cat Food Pie thoughts but it always ends on a positive note. We remind each other of the good points in our marriages and our Hubbies. If the men really knew how much entertainment they provided us, they really would not be happy. Well, my Hubby has a slight idea but he doesn't mind. He is a very good sport.

I may never want to go back to it, but I like the fact that Hubby and I have some history. There's a lot to that ten years that was not just growing pains. It has made us so much stronger. I'm proud to be called Mrs. I'm proud of my husband and we have made our relationship our priority. The great thing we leave room for others who need us and we step aside and let the other do what they need to do. But at night, we work very hard at leaving it all aside and let the rest of the world go away. That has become 'us' time.

We are running away this week end. Daughter has gracially offered to look after the dogs. I think I'll start packing...on the other hand are we really going to need clothes with a jacuzzi in the room?

Happy Anniversary Honey!
I can't wait to see where this ride takes us. I'm glad its with you.